CLOSE
BREATHING

How To Actually Do It

1. 01
   Pick a face to face position
   Lotus is the gold standard. Side lying face to face works too. Even missionary if you stay slow. The position needs to allow extended face to face contact and slow movement. Anything that requires effort to maintain will break the breath part.
2. 02
   Get into the position calmly
   Penetration happens. Settle in. The first minute or two is just being in the position. Eyes open or closed. Hands on each other. Movement minimal or none yet. Calm is the foundation.
3. 03
   Start the breathing
   Slow breaths. In through the nose for a count of four. Hold for one. Out through the mouth for a count of four. Both partners try to match each others rhythm. The first few cycles will feel weird. Stay with it. By the fifth or sixth cycle most couples are in sync.
4. 04
   Add slow movement
   Now small hip movements that match the breath. Move on the inhale, settle on the exhale. Or the reverse. Pick a pattern. The movement and the breath become one thing instead of two. Sounds esoteric. Feels different than regular sex in a measurable way.
5. 05
   Stay there longer than feels normal
   Most couples bail at minute 5 because their brains say go faster. Stay. The 10 to 15 minute mark is where close breathing actually lands. The body and the brain both shift into a different mode. You will probably understand what tantric people are talking about for the first time.

The Bottom Line

Close Breathing is the position add on that turns sex into something different.

Pick a face to face position. Slow it down. Match breath. Stay longer than feels natural. The technique works whether or not you buy the tantric framing. You do not need to chant. You need to breathe and pay attention. Try it on a slow night. Most couples either become huge fans or it isnt their thing. Both are valid. You will know after the first session.